Why My Story Will Help Your Family
Being a shy and sensitive person, I always found trying new things difficult. I didn’t want the attention on me, and I was afraid of failure. Unfortunately, I developed this habit of playing it safe by only trying things I was good at.
I tried out for the school musical hosted by the drama department because I was a good singer in the school & church choir. I played tennis because I grew up playing with my dad. (I only would play doubles though so the game didn’t totally rest on my shoulders.) I would choose activities that I could do alone, like reading, over being in group activities if I didn’t know everyone going. I never raised my hand or wanted to read aloud in class.
I wish I knew then what I know now. That trying new things doesn’t have to be scary. That our brains are wired for new adventures. That you just have to build a Neural Pathway and those nervous jitters will disappear. That your self-confidence grows by trying new things.
I bet you didn’t know that you don’t even have to leave the comfort of your own home to build Neural Pathways either! You see your mind cannot decipher between what has actually happened and what you’d like to happen. You can use visualizations and affirmations as tools to build them.
As Promised...The Ingredients
Visualizations are exactly what they sound like. You close your eyes and visualize being successful at the goal you are trying to reach. It’s like a movie you play in your imagination. The key is to visualize in great detail and to feel the success as well. Let’s say you have a big test coming up. You can picture yourself sitting in the classroom, the teacher passing out the test and you confidently passing it – you see it, feel it and become it.
Affirmations work in the same way. Where visualizations are tools in which you see yourself successfully meeting, affirmations are the audible version. A successful affirmation is – a statement of fact, in the present tense & evokes a positive feeling. “I pass my test with flying colors and it feels great!”
I’ve saved the best ingredient for last – gratitude. To be grateful for what you already have opens your energy to attract more of the same. During your visualizations and affirmations, you are essentially expressing gratitude for something that has not yet appeared, acting as if it has already come to pass. This is wonderful but to make it even more powerful, give thanks for what you already have been given. If you can appreciate what you have, you exhibit the capability to accept more.
The key in using these tools is to “use them and then loose them”. Meaning once you’ve expressed your desire, then you let go of “the how”. Your job in co-creating is to express that which you desire to create. Then you let go of how it will come to pass and leave that up to the universe.
How to Apply with Your Kiddos
Practice this with your kiddo. Identify a challenge coming up and teach them how to visualize and affirm their success, while also expressing gratitude for past accomplishments. While you watch their confidence soar, so will your heart with pride for your kiddo and comfort knowing you’ve taught them a successful skill they can use for a lifetime!
As Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.”
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