When I first saw this quote, I couldn’t wrap my head around it. All I kept thinking was – this is backwards! It was backwards to me at the time because I was living in opposition to the flow of universal energy. I was forcing my way through life, instead of going with the flow. But it wasn’t in error. I was simply living as I’d been taught to. As many of us have.
You set a goal. You break it down into steps. And you make it happen. Of course, setting goals is great, and I highly recommend it. However, the step we are not taught in the equation is what to do when things don’t go as planned. Let’s face it, more times than not this is the case. So how do we handle it? We forge our way through. We force things to fall into place. We muscle through.
I’m happy to share there is a much easier way. But I will lay it out there. It’s going to seem counterintuitive to what you think the answer is. Instead of acting, do the opposite. Let it go. By letting go, I don’t mean let go of your goal. What I mean is let go of the way you think it should happen. Stop focusing on the solution you came up with and trust that a new path will become apparent to you.
This begins with Trust. Now trust is not something we just grab off the shelf. Like any relationship, building trust in the universal flow of life takes time. You must acquire proven life experience that it works. So that trust builds. Each time you take the leap of faith, you remember the outcome the last time you did and it gives you the courage to let go, trust that universe has your back, and that a solution will be given to you.
“Life is the dancer and you are the dance means you stop the struggle and learn to move with the flow of your life. Being one with life is being one with Now. You then realize that you don't live your life, but life lives you.” - Eckhart Tolle
In trusting the universal flow of life, we must live in the present moment. This is what Eckhart means by being one with the now. Living in the present moment means we no longer live with our regrets of yesterday and our worries of tomorrow, but instead live consciously in the moment we are in right now. We do this by becoming aware of the thought patterns we have on autopilot and change the narrative from fear to faith.
It works because my life is proof! I used to force myself to be committed to a career just because I went to school for it. I forced myself to stay in a committed relationship even though the other person was not committed to me because I made a commitment. I forced myself to retain friendships just because we’d been friends for years. And I was miserable until one day, little by little, I began trading the reasons why I should for the reason why I wanted to. I slowly phased out friendships that no longer supported me. I began to follow a career path that made my heart sing. I changed the locks on my house and in my heart to move on from a one-sided relationship.
In no way am I saying it was easy. What I am saying, is it was worth it! My passion to share my life experiences with parents is so you can instill this in your kiddos early. Let’s teach them that missing step to the equation. Let’s teach them how to handle things when they don’t go as planned and how to leave situations that don’t serve them. Because there is no reason to stay where you are not appreciated or where your growth is stunted just because at one point you thought that was the direction you wanted to take.
The Kids' Korner
Now how do we teach our kiddos about this universal flow? First, we need to get comfortable with the process ourselves – we shift from asking our head to asking our heart for direction. Your head is limited to your experiences and knowledge. Whereas your heart is connected to your higher self that has access to all universal knowledge.
What is something you’ve been struggling with? Can you admit you have exhausted all resources? Good. Then you simply stop. And breath. This relaxes your nervous system and opens you up for alternate answers. Once you are relaxed, go have fun. This takes your mind of searching for a solution and it creates endorphins that aid in finding one.
When you’re ready to approach again, sit quietly and ask for direction. Then listen to your heart’s answer aka your intuition. Take action steps accordingly. Then watch as the universe supports your actions through synchronicities.
Keep a journal with you and when inspiration sparks, write it down. You will not be given the ultimate game plan, but you will be given steps and each bread crumb leads to the next step. Before you know it, you’ve made it to the other side – successfully and without struggle!
Now that you’ve proven to yourself that it works, find an experience your kiddo is going through and work with them through these steps. Use your life experiences as examples or “proof” of the success in letting things go, in the success of following universal flow.
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