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TRADING PROBLEMS FOR PRAYER

12/7/2021

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I once heard a preacher say "worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it gets you no where."

Yes, logically that makes total sense. But what about our emotions? How do we move past how we feel when what we feel seems SO DANG REAL?

We honor our feelings. Because no matter how ugly the feelings you need to face, your emotions aren't going anywhere.  Yes, you can numb them with addictions.  Lord knows I've tried that route. Yes, the pain does go away - temporarily. But the next day, the confusion is only compounded.

So how do you make the leap from problem to prayer?  Begin with some POSITIVE SELF-TALK. 

There's a mantra I use when I know it's time to put on my big girl panties. "It stinks today so it will be better tomorrow." Pretty elementary I know, but it works!! By honoring our feelings, they will loosen their grip. When their grip isn't so tight, you can begin to feel hope. Hopeful you can indeed move past these current feelings.

With hope, you turn that problem into a prayer by speaking out your feelings and asking for help - PRAY. To be shown what you need to see. To be told what you need to hear. To be given the knowledge you need to overcome. Thank your Higher-Self for the guidance and let it go. You will be given intuitive guidance one step at a time. (Check out my blog on how to tap into your intuition for guidance.)

I used to make the mistake of trying to push my feelings down but they always resurfaced AND with a vengeance! I learned that by using a mantra and asking for help, I can turn a problem into a prayer. It shifts your focus from lack to faith, and with that shift, solutions will come your way!

Just understand this. Our ego wants to see the entire mapped out plan of how we are going to get from point a (the problem) to point b (the solution). This is not how our intuition works. It gives us step by step instructions. Once you have faithfully followed the first step, the next step will be given to us.

We learn two things - how to live in the present moment and how to develop our faith muscle.

By living in the present moment, we are no longer living in the illusion of time.  Where we look to the past in regret of what could have been, or sit in anxiety of what the future may bring. The present moment is where our power lies. In the present moment, we consciously decide how we wish to show up. We know the past has passed and even if we don't like how something turned out, we can always learn from it. We also know that our present day decisions are laying the groundwork for our future life experiences.

When we develop our faith muscle, we build self-confidence in our ability to co-create with the universe. Self-esteem issues always stem from the helpless feeling that you are going at life alone. This couldn't be further from the truth, but in order for you to believe it, you have to try it on for size! The next time you have a problem, turn it into prayer. Ask for the help you need. Then follow the guidance you are given. Nine times out of ten, it will be handled in a much better way than you could have devised.

Keep a journal of your victories and then pull it out the next time you find yourself challenged. Re-mind yourself you are not doing life alone. Say your affirming mantra. Honor all of your feelings. Ask for help with your problem. Follow through on your guidance.  TURN THAT PROBLEM INTO PRAYER!

Follow me on Instagram, schedule a free consultation or check out these blogs to learn more about EQ and how it can change your life - like it did mine. Happy coaching Brave Ones!

Be Brave, Be You - Learn the Power of EQ!
Emotional Intelligence Coaching: https://linktr.ee/bebravebeyou
Similar Blog Topics: Destination or Distraction?, Letting Go, Expectations & Emotions
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November 16th, 2021

11/16/2021

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Distractions are such sneaky little boogers! They disguise themselves so well that we take the bait without ever having seen the hook.

I was always ready and willing to show up for some fight. All in the name of injustice. At work I was taking up for a coworker that was being bullied by the sales team. In my relationships, I was trying to right bad behavior. With my family, I was forever defending my reactions. And personally, I fought depression, body dysmorphia and flailing finances.

I was sidetracked by distractions all the time. Until I saw them for what they were - a pattern. I always seemed to be fighting, and this took up so much of my energy that I didn't have time to grow and expand.

I was at the crossroads of choice. Do I continue to fight any and everything that came my way? Or do I discern - Is this a Distraction or My Destination?

​- For work, I decided the office politics were a distraction. No one put me in charge. Therefore I had no authority to make any changes. I stuck to excellent client service and left the rest alone.
- For my relationships, I decided if someone could not hear how their behavior hurt me, they were no longer a part of my inner circle. This was a privilege, not something I needed to explain.
- For my family, I stopped trying to be right and decided to just be happy. I gave us all the space to just show up how we wanted to, and now we are in the best place we've ever been!
- As for my personal problems, I took ownership and responsibility for my feelings by way of my thoughts. Our thoughts create our feelings which create our actions. If you want your actions to change, take a look at the thoughts that are fueling them.

​Do you see a pattern in your life that you'd like to change?
Acknowledge how you feel.
Discover the root thought.
Ask for the help you need.
Commit to making a change.
And when you are triggered again, remind yourself: "This is a Distraction from my Destination!"


Follow me on Instagram, schedule a free consultation or check out these blogs to learn more about EQ and how it can change your life - like it did mine. Happy coaching Brave Ones!

Be Brave, Be You - Learn the Power of EQ!
Emotional Intelligence Coaching: https://linktr.ee/bebravebeyou
Similar Blog Topics: The Movie of Your Mind, To Be or Not to Be, The Secret Ingredient for Goal Setting, Self-Confidence Traps​

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THE MOVIE OF YOUR MIND

11/9/2021

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As Tony Robbins says, “the only reason you don't have the things that you say you want in life, is because of the story that you tell yourself about why you can't have it.”

We all have stories. It's a natural part of being alive, and perfectly normal. What most folks don't realize is that we have creative control over our storylines.  I was definitely one of these people!

For years I saw life as happening to me. I was at the beck and call of whatever showed up at my doorstep, and to say it was erratic is an understatement. I was in a constant whirlwind of emotions, fighting life each step of the way. Cliff Notes: I do not recommend this route. 

What I discovered is that your outside world is a reflection of your inner state of mind. So any change I wanted to see had to begin with me. I could no longer deny I was the common denominator to all my life's drama, and when I took responsibility for my internal chaos, my day to day life followed suit.

What helped me was taking myself out of the storyline. By redefining my role as the creator of my story, instead of the victim of life, it allowed me to see my mind for what it truly was - the universe's  creative collaborator.  As creative director, I changed the narrative of my storylines and the universe supported my new thoughts by bringing new scenes.

You can rewrite your scenes too!  
- Decide to be happy right now - not only if and when your circumstances change.
- Focus on what you do want - instead of focusing on the lack of it.
- Honor your emotions - and use them as a compass back to your thoughts.

Daily Practices to support these shifts:
- Attitude of gratitude - for what you already have been gifted.
- Affirm & Visualize your manifestations - as if they've already happened.
- Meditate to quiet your mind - so you can shift the thoughts that don't serve you.
- Live with intention by setting goals - instead of waiting for life to happen for you.

In this life of duality, you always have an opportunity to see things from a different perspective. You can always begin again. Be brave enough to be the gatekeeper of your thoughts. Take back your creative control. Rewrite those storylines. It may not always be easy, but I promise you it will be worth it!


Follow me on Instagram, schedule a free consultation or check out these blogs to learn more about EQ and how it can change your life - like it did mine. Happy coaching Brave Ones!

Be Brave, Be You - Learn the Power of EQ!

Emotional Intelligence Coaching: https://linktr.ee/bebravebeyou
Similar Blog Topics: To Be or Not To Be?, Unwrap Your Soul Sandwich, The Work is Never Over, Idle Minds, You Achieve What You Believe

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TO BE, OR NOT TO BE....THAT IS THE QUESTION...OR IS IT?

10/26/2021

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As Hamlet so famously said in his soliloquy: "To be or not to be. That is the question." 

But I tend to agree with Golda Meir on this one. There is no compromise. There is no question. There is only a decision. To be or not to be.

For a number of years I chose not to be, and the price I paid far exceeded the cost. My initial investment seemed harmless. Fitting in. People pleasing. Respecting authority figures. Being a good girl. Knowing my place. Not rocking the boat. After all, these were all the things I'd been taught in our society. It's what you had to do to get along in families, friendships, marriages and the workplace. 

So I thought!

What I've come to know is that any of these done out of fear, not because you authentically want to do them, is detrimental in the long run. Yes, upfront seemingly harmless but long term, soul crushing.

Listening to my heart's voice, over my head's was instrumental in my perspective shift.

The voice that tells you all of your limitations. Reminds you of all your failures. That encourages you to go against your gut. That's the head. 

The voice that reminds you of your uniqueness. That encourages you. That re-minds you to listen to your intuition over the well intended advice of others. That is your heart's voice.

Because I was determined to override the voice of my heart, I did many things that left me asking the same question Hamlet did - to be or not to be? He was asking was dying better than living? Because living wasn't going so well. 

Of course life's not going so well if you aren't living 100% authentically as you were made to live. I befriended people that were far from friends, married men that loved me even less than they loved themselves, was cheated on, lied to, used and worked in an industry that went against many of my basic values. All because I hadn't taken the time to get to know who I was.

So if you're like I was, living off the approval of others, how do you become self-confident?
You start doing things to impress yourself.
You define your belief system. Then you hold your boundaries strong.

You do a body check. Then you follow through on what your gut is guiding you to do.
You keep promises to yourself. Then when challenged, you let your actions speak for themselves. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone!

You decide never to forsake yourself again because anything you "loose" outside of yourself is way less pricy then loosing yourself.  Ever again.


​Follow me on Instagram, schedule a free consultation or check out these blogs to learn more about EQ and how it can change your life - like it did mine. Happy coaching Brave Ones!
Be Brave, Be You - Learn the Power of EQ!
Emotional Intelligence Coaching: https://linktr.ee/bebravebeyou
Similar Blog Topics: Letting Go, How to Find Balance, Practice Makes Perfect 


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Unwrap your soul sandwich

8/30/2021

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My soul sandwich is my morning ritual that re-minds me that I am a spirit having a human experience. It’s so easy to get swept away in our human experiences throughout the day and it’s totally normal!  If I serve my soul this sandwich though, it’s easier to move through a moment when I can’t seem to see the forest for the trees. 

The recipe has three ingredients: Gratitude, Prayer, Grounding.  Within moments of opening my eyes, I give Gratitude for the blessings in my life. Then I Pray “Please let me see what I need to see, hear what I need to hear and feel what I need to feel” so that I will remain open to following the guidance of my intuition. I sandwich this with Grounding myself. I put my feet on the ground while reaching my arms to the sky while affirming “I am grounded in Mother Earth while being guided by God my father.” 

Gratitude acknowledges my earthly existence. Prayer acknowledges that I don't have to go it alone. While Grounding myself marries the human and the spirit.

One of my recent experiences showed me just how powerful this soul sandwich is.  Even though I am happier and feel freer than I have in years, I have been feeling energetically stuck. Specifically, having difficulty in expressing my creativity.  

The weekend rolls around and even though I rarely do anything on a Friday night, I had a strong urge to reach out to my neighbors to make dinner plans. Since neither of us had our kids, we decided to treat ourselves to sushi in a part of town I rarely go.

On the way back to the car from dinner, we noticed a new hot yoga facility.  Before my son was born, hot yoga was my jam. The studio I attended was a bit of a drive, and it just became unpractical. I was ecstatic to see we had a studio now, but even more so that I'd allowed my intuition to bring me here.

I purchased a week unlimited and literally felt like I’d come back home. Remember my pray to hear, see and feel the information I needed?  Just like magic, I did!  It was my second chakra that was blocked and all the “evidence” (characteristics of this chakra) around me supported what my intuition told me. 

Hearing – in my meditation, I kept hearing water in the background of the spa music that played   Seeing – in both my gyms (orangetheory and the new yoga studio) the décor was orange                  Feeling – doing yoga sparked such enthusiasm that I finally created YouTube videos I'd avoided

To top it off (and you can’t make this stuff up folks), shortly after I'd put together all these pieces together, a frog was jumping around in my house. Frogs are symbols of potential.  Growing from a tadpole swimming around into a frog that hops around, frogs demonstrate the capacity for something so simple to evolve into something magnificent. 

I had been blocking my creative energy by worrying about whether it was good enough. When my focus should simply be on being creative, trusting the universe will match my energy and bring me everything I need. What an incredible hug I'd received from the universe.  What lesson could you benefit from serving up a Soul Sandwich?   

Follow me on Instagram, schedule a free consultation or check out these blogs to learn more about EQ and how it can change your life - like it did mine. Happy coaching Brave Ones! 
 
Be Brave, Be You - Learn the Power of EQ! 
Emotional Intelligence Coaching: https://linktr.ee/bebravebeyou 
Similar Blog Topics: Modern Day Miracles, Humanness, The Magic of Universal Flow
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The easy(ier) way to let go

8/16/2021

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You know how it's common practice to say - my first language is and you fill in the blank with your language of origin?  I was born and raised in the US but English is not my first language.  Emotions are.

I feel everything.  All my big beautiful feelings and all the feelings of the collective around me.  At first it was a real drag because I didn't understand how it worked.  Now I deem it as an honor!  More on that later...

Before the honor part, my emotions ruled my life.  If I felt wronged, I let everyone around me know how I felt.  I wasn't trying to be a jerk but my emotions were so big that if I didn't share, I would either drown in depression or in my booze.  

I understand now that my emotions were not the problem.  How I interpreted my emotions is where I got off track.  My emotions were just messengers, notifying me there was more to "the story" than what I was experiencing first hand.

Emotions are energy in motion.  They are literally how we feel our thoughts. Nine times out of ten, when we have a feeling it is a trigger to a bigger message.  But we tend to take it at face value and react in kind.

For example.  Someone betrays your trust.  You are hurt and rightfully so.  Feeding off this hurt, you react in retaliation.  Blaming the other person's action for how you feel.  When in reality, you are the only person that is responsible for how you feel.  No one can make you feel anything, but a storyline can.

You've been betrayed before but you never dealt with it (ie: confronted the other person and/or worked on personal healing).  Now that you have experienced it again, it is compounded.  

This is the deal.  The universe will keep giving you the same life experiences until you deal with the original source of the trauma.  People are reflections of your inside dialogue.  Instead of blaming another for the betrayal, ask yourself how you betrayed you.

Their behavior is about them - their beliefs, their past experiences, their triggers.  It's not about you.  Heck yes it feels personal as all get out but at the end of the day, nope.  Not about you.

Here's how you let go of their behavior and focus on healing you:  Your mind can only focus on one thing at a time.  You can either focus on blaming someone else or you can focus on figuring out why you were triggered.  It's as simple as a choice.

In no way am I asking you to tolerate bad behavior.  I'm just asking you to see it from a different perspective so that you can focus on you - the only thing you have control over!

What you resist, will persist.  So instead of fighting your feelings - that you deserve to feel by the way - replace your focus. Now that I understand the Language of Emotions, it is my honor, privilege and passion to share it with you!  

Follow me on Instagram, schedule a free consultation or check out these blogs to learn more about EQ and how it can change your life - like it did mine. Happy coaching Brave Ones!

Be Brave, Be You - Learn the Power of EQ!
Emotional Intelligence Coaching: https://linktr.ee/bebravebeyou
Similar Blog Topics: Balancing Act, Do As I Say Not As I Do, Modern Day Miracles
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BALANCING ACT

8/9/2021

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​I couldn't shake this feeling that I needed to strive for more balance, but I was so confused.  Here's the catch - I thought I was balanced because I had literally let go.  Not in a defeating kind of way but in a I'm not stressin' about things out of my control anymore way.

I was no longer obsessing over finances - I made a budget and moved forward.
My happiness was no longer tied to how much I weighed - Perimenopause can be a draaaaag!  
I was no longer focusing on when I'd meet "Mr. Right" - Even though I have coined myself the Queen of First Dates, at least I'm getting out there.

After all, I have made a beautiful and peaceful home for my son and I.  I have the most fantastic tribe of friends a woman can ask for.  We really want for nothing.  My family is happy and healthy.  Life is good.

So what's up with more balance????

After digging a bit deeper in meditation, opening myself up to signs and their interpretation, I finally "heard" the message.  

It wasn't balance of my human life, it was balance between my human life and my spiritual one.  I was focusing so much on my material world, I'd let my connection with the spiritual one go to the wayside.  It's so common too!

We are spirits having a human experience but we often forget that when we get bogged down in the day to day duties of life.  By reconnecting with our spirit, our Higher-self, we re-member just how powerful we are and get grounded in solutions versus problems.

The results are amazing!  Not only do we get trusted guidance from the 10k foot view, but physiologically we benefit too.  Your nervous system calms down, so the fight or flight is released for you to make better sound decisions.

Meditation is a great way to tap into your spirit's guidance, but it's not always convenient to stop where you're at, close your eyes, hum OM and get your answers!  So I'm gonna share how to get out of your head and into your heart no matter where you are or what you're doing.

When you've found yourself at a crossroad - whether it's your fight or flight kickin' in or you're just plain confused - do three easy steps:  Stop, Breath and Receive.

Stop - what you're doing: moving, thinking, doing, going
Breath - breath in for 5, hold for 5, release for 5 (repeat until you feel more calm)
Receive - take the first thought as your answer to what to do next

Now your mind is most likely going to tell you it's hogwash, but I'm here to tell you it works.  Every.  Single.  Time.  You just have to practice to get your "proof".

Your logical mind fights this process because it wants to know all the steps right now.  Your intuition doesn't work that way.  It gives you one step at a time. You literally have to walk in faith, but as you do so you begin to trust the process.

When I first starting working with my intuition, I kept a small journal in my purse to jot down synchronicities that happened and it was so much fun looking back at the process and how beautifully it had all unfolded.  But don't just believe me, try it out for yourself!

Follow me on Instagram, schedule a free consultation or check out these blogs to learn more about EQ and how it can change your life - like it did mine. Happy coaching Brave Ones!

Be Brave, Be You - Learn the Power of EQ!
Emotional Intelligence Coaching: https://linktr.ee/bebravebeyou
Similar Blog Topics: Human vs. Spirit, The Magic of Universal Flow, Use Your Intuition to Find Your Mission, Feel Your Way to Freedom
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Practice Makes Productive

8/1/2021

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I can't tell you how many times I've looked at a goal I'm working on and said, "Why in the world is this taking so long?  All I've done is think about this and how much I want it.  What gives?!?!?"

Thinking.  That's what gives.  Nine times out of ten when we've set out to do something and we take note of how far along we actually are versus how far along we think we should be it's because there is a gap between an Expectation and Intention.  We've thought about it more than we've actually been doing anything about it.  And - there's nothing wrong with that!  Let me explain.

When we are taking an idea in our head and manifesting it into reality, visualization (aka thinking about it in great detail) is a great way to start.  Our brains are wired to then attract to us situations that will help us create our dream into a reality.  This is where I got stuck - I never moved past the visualization and into taking some action....

Let's take working out as an example.  I used to put a lot of time and energy into what kind of exercise was the latest fad, how much time I should be doing it and when the schedule fit my working hours.  I found this fancy membership near my job that I could go to at lunch.  The club not only offered all the latest classes, but also had a pool for my son and I to swim in, spa treatments and tennis courts for the weekends. I had set myself up to reach my fitness goals by taking action to join the gym.  What I wasn't doing was going on a regular basis.

It was feast or famine for me. If I'd over-indulged on the weekend, I went crazy the next week.  Wore myself out and chilled the next week which lingered into another week. Then I'd indulge again and the cycle would begin again.

I spent a lot of time thinking about exercising - instead of designing an exercise program that was manageable enough to follow.  I know it may sound elementary but I was driving myself nuts. Until one day I was brave enough to be honest with myself.  It wasn't my gym.  It wasn't my perimenopausal body (although let's face it, that didn't help much!).  It wasn't the type of exercise that wasn't yielding results.  It was me.  I was self-sabotaging.

So how do we bridge the gap between Expectations and Intention?  You take it to the next level by getting the ideas out of your head and onto some paper.  Mind-mapping is when you take a larger goal and break it into smaller, more manageable pieces.

Mind-Mapping 101:  
Identify a large goal.
Break it into steps and assign these steps to a month.
Each month break down this step into four weeks.
At the start of each week, break out that week's goal into days.
Then keep a journal of your progress and adjust accordingly.

The goal is to hold yourself accountable.  I do this using several tools:
I use a journal to list my large yearly goals (health, career, social, financial, community).
I then take a page per month and divvy out these goals.
I use a monthly calendar on my wall to display that month's tasks.
Then I break the monthly tasks out into weekly goals.
Last, I use my phone calendar to track daily activity for that week's goal(s).

Also keep in mind - life happens!  So adjust as you need to.  I was crushing my goals earlier this year, having finished writing my book and had it edited, I just knew I'd be in print by spring.  Then bam, I had to have surgery.  Hopefully your life won't be quite as eventful as mine was but if you do need to make adjustments, it's ok.  Each new day (each new minute really) is an invitation to start again.

Follow me on Instagram, schedule a free consultation or check out these blogs to learn more about EQ and how it can change your life - like it did mine. Happy coaching Brave Ones!

Be Brave, Be You - Learn the Power of EQ!
Emotional Intelligence Coaching: https://linktr.ee/bebravebeyou
Similar Blog Topics:  Killin' Time with Idle Minds, Use Your Intuition to Find Your Mission, The Secret Ingredients to Goal Setting, Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

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Do As I say, Not as I do (aka Projection)

7/25/2021

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You gotta love it when people call you out for THEIR behavior.  This happened to me over and over again in Corporate America.  And. It. Drove. Me. Nuts! 

Example.... there is a miscommunication with a client. So you just fix it, but the sales person wants to talk it out.  I'm ok with that. After all, that's how we grow and learn - from mistakes. What drove me crazy was then having the sales person call my boss to complain that I am not communicating efficiently - after we worked it out and are in agreement how to move forward.

I don't have a problem with constructive criticism when I have done something wrong and need to learn from it. (I'm a a rehabilitated perfectionist. So this in and of itself deserves a celebration!) But when you are horrible at communication but project it on me - I do have a problem. One mistake does not equal a problem in communicating.

I was constantly following up with this sales person on calls not followed through with, on emails where I wasn't included but needed the answer, on reminders of outstanding items we had addressed numerous times, and the list goes on. Yet he was calling my boss relaying this was my weakness.

Before you blow up, rest up.  Take a breather and recognize how completely out of balance the situation is, but your reaction doesn't have to be. Be so confident in who you are that you don't allow another person to define you. Yes, it is natural as your first reaction to defend yourself, but be realistic with your expectations.  Let me explain....

I used to fight the unfair only to realize at the end of the day, it just didn't matter. My boss wasn't really interested in hearing all "sides" and the sales person was not going to change. I decided one day to stop this cycle and to take Maya Angelou's advise instead: "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude" about it.

I want to share this perspective - IT CAN BE LIBERATING.  When you know that another person is not going to change, you can stop caring about their behavior.  Translated:  You know where NOT to focus your time anymore!  You are free from expending any more energy towards that relationship.  You take that person at face value, knowing how they operate and you have a scripted response filed away for future reference - because you better believe you'll need it again!  

Be open to allowing people to show you who they are because they will every, single, time! Then accept it. This will set you up for more realistic expectations in the future - you see what will happen versus what you wish would happen.  We are all on our own unique journey, and it's not your job to school them on how to behave. Your only job is to be responsible for how you react. 

So how do you get to have your feelings yet not feel all over everyone?
Remove yourself from the situation, close your eyes and take five deep breaths & release.
If you can feel all your feelings now, go for it! 
If you're in the office, jot down main points in your journal to feel later.
Then FEEL ALL THE FEELINGS. 
This is where most of us just stuff them down, only for them to resurface later.
I can't stress this enough - FEEL ALL YOUR FEELINGS.
You deserve to feel whatever you feel.  It's what you do with those feelings that is important.
Decide - is this something you can change or is this something you need to change how you see?
If you can change, take action.
If not, change how you see it - in this case, projection is not about you. 
I get it projection feels personal but it couldn't be more impersonal.
It is about them. You are acting as a mirror, reflecting back to them something they need to heal.
Understand they may not be willing or may not want to see this. It's their journey.
When this happens, feel your feelings, then face them with the facts and move forward.

As I did with my boss, A-problem that happened, B-the solution offered & agreed upon. It would serve me no purpose to bring up all the examples of how hard it is to communicate (because A-my boss just wants it resolved, B-the sales person is not changing).

When you remove the personal aspect of things, you become the observer of the situation, removing yourself as the person that is being persecuted.  By observing the behavior, instead of blindly reacting to being triggered, you stand grounded in your power. You can choose a better response. And by doing so, you can allow in the Law of Attraction - positive thoughts bring positive results into your life - to take over from there.  

Projection is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to building successful relationships.  Follow me on Instagram, schedule a free consultation or check out these blogs to learn more.  Happy coaching brave ones!

Be Brave, Be You - Learn the Power of EQ!
For more information: https://linktr.ee/bebravebeyou
Check out these blogs:  Universal Flow, Feel Your Way To Freedom, Are You An HSP?
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Modern Day miracles

7/12/2021

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What if I were to tell you that miracles are much easier to come by than you think?  Well, if you had told me that a few years ago I would have flat out laughed in your face!  I saw life as a never ending struggle, one after the other, each seemingly more daunting than the next. I lived like this for decades, until I literally lost my desire to fight.  I was tired.  I felt broken.  I had finally become humbled.  

I took a good, hard look at my life choices thus far - all the struggles I was fighting everyday - to decipher how I can go about life differently.  After all, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.  Lord knows the results I was yielding were not what I was striving for!

Even though my struggles were in different types of relationships - family, romantic, friends, professional - they all had one common denominator.  ME.  Yes, I could give a great argument as to how I'd been wronged by each individual but what I couldn't deny is I was the only one participating in every single scenario.

Initially it sounded depressing, but it was actually liberating!  If I was participating then that meant I had a say so in the matter.  Maybe not in how the scene played out, but I sure had a choice in how I could perceive that scene.

That is the key factor in miracles - PERCEPTION - and it can be backed up by science too!  The Observer Effect states that the act of observing an object can actually change the object.  So what does that mean for you and me?  It means that by merely choosing to look at something different, we can cause it to actually look different!

Perception is just that - a way of interpreting something.  So if we "see" all our interactions as a struggle, our interactions will show up as a struggle.  BUT.... what if we "see" our interactions as an opportunity to learn?  Then our life experiences begin to show up as happening FOR US and not to us!  We are more open to growth and forward progression, versus becoming stuck in a repetitive downward spiral.

This is why understanding the Language of Emotions is so helpful.  Emotional Intelligence is
the ability to recognize, evaluate and regulate your own emotions, emotions of those around you and in groups of people.

People, places and things we encounter in life are just that - people, places and things. In other words, they are neutral.  We are the ones that place emotions and opinions on them.  So if we create "the story", we can decide how the story unfolds.  If we don't like how we feel, then we have the power to Change the Narrative.  And that is what my coaching practice is all about.

​What I’ve discovered as a coach is that we can be so immersed in our own personal story line that is it hard to see the bigger picture. And when you have been hurt, rightfully so. You have every right to feel every emotion that you have. It's what you do with those feelings that either keep you stuck or move you towards healing. This is why I am so passionate about coaching, because I teach mindset developmental skills. You will learn the brain science behind the power of your mind by targeting unhealthy thought patterns. 

We each have a journey in our life to fulfill and it is as unique as our fingerprints.  Now life isn’t without challenges but if you are equipped with the right coping skills, you can create anything you want in your life.  You can move past insecurities, unhealthy relationships and even disappointments to live the beautiful, bright life you deserve!


Be Brave, Be You - Learn the Power of EQ!
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