When we think of forgiving, we think it means having to find the willpower to stop being angry and hurt towards another person that did some wrongdoing to us. Let's break down the word to see it from another perspective.
"For" is used as a function word to indicate purpose. "Giving" is defined as providing love. Combined, for-giving means "the purpose is to provide love" - an intense feeling of deep affection.
You are entitled to feel every emotion you have when someone has mistreated you. It's absurd to think you just need to find a way to get over how you feel. We honor ourselves when we acknowledge how we feel. We are literally telling ourselves, I matter. You are showing yourself deep affection - LOVE.
When we deny how we feel, we end up stuck in cycles of storytelling. Where you are the victim and the other person is the villain. Without even realizing it, you've assigned your feelings as your identity. Don't worry though, it's 100% normal. We all do it! The key is just to realize when you have and reach out for forgiveness.
Forgiveness is the realization that you are in the present moment trying to rewrite the past.
This happens when our new and improved self looks back at the older model and judges.
So how do feel your feelings but not get stuck?
Tell your story of how you were wronged. Every single detail.
Feel every single feeling. You deserve to honor your experience.
Then make the decision to replace your thoughts of judgement (for how it should have gone) with thoughts of love to yourself (for doing the best you could at the time with the knowledge that you had).
Repeat every time those thoughts of defeat pop up.
You will create a new habit of loving yourself through old memories.
And if that wasn't enough, these benefits can be yours too!
- Weight loss occurs when you surrender fight or flight syndrome.
- Manifestation improves because you've deemed yourself worthy.
- Sound sleep happens when you've freed your mind to relax.
- Improved Health ensues when your nervous system is clamed.
But the Best Benefit of All?
When you heal your inner child, you set an example for your kids - so they won't have to heal theirs!
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