I understand why now. I mean reread what I just wrote! Those are some larger than life goals. So big that when you work towards fulfilling them, can feel overwhelming to say the least. Key word being FEELING. But we'll circle back to that in a minute.
I spent a lot of time THINKING about my goals. Shortly after I finally got around to taking action, I became impatient when things weren't happening. I was under the impression I had been at it for a LONG time, but when I was honest with myself, I realized that I'd just been THINKING about them for a long time.
I hadn't actually been taking action for that long. Just long enough to get impatient. Then frustrated. Then I gave up all together. Sound familiar? Well it's quite common. So don't go shaming yourself.
I always had the "I can" part of this mantra but I was missing the "I will" piece due to procrastination. And I was procrastinating because I was filled with doubt. Doubt is totally normal when you're going through change, because our brains love patterns. BUT doubt can actually be used as a catalyst for change if you use it as a reminder to find a solution rather than an excuse to quit all together.
Let's take my body goal for example. It went something like this: I want to transform my body. But how can I when my body's been like this for so long? I mean I exercise all the time. And I eat nutritious every day. Well, I guess I've tried already. It must just be a byproduct of getting older. I might as well move on to the next goal. Now it would be one thing if I just let it go at that, but I'd still pine away after this goal. So I knew there had to more to it!
Well.....after further examination (when confronted with the cold hard facts aka my data in the My Fitness Pal app) I hadn't really been exercising all the time. I was constantly thinking about exercising. I also wasn't eating nutritious every day either. I spent more time thinking about the foods I should log in my app rather than what I was actually putting into my body.
This is how The Dailys were born. I wanted to move out of just feeling (I can) by coupling it with measurable action (I will). I decided that each day, I would have non-negotiables. These are tasks that I would do each day, no questions asked, to help me reach my goals. I wrote down my big dreamer goals. Then I divide them by twelve months. At the beginning of each month, I assigned them a week. Each week broke down into daily tasks. I kept track of all of this in my calendar and readjusted with the ebb and flow of my life. (After all I was a single full-time working mom and had a few other tasks on my to-do!)
I also had science backing up my new process too - Neural Pathways. Your brain is like a map and the pathways are like the roads. When you do something new, you form a new pathway that your brain adds to its "map" from how you got from point A to point B. When you do this task again, your brain remembers how because it's formed a neural pathway. Remember, your brain likes patterns, repetitions.
That's why change can SEEM so hard because you just haven't figured out your new pathway yet. Not because of your lack in will power or your inability to change. Now that you know you just need to build a new pathway, use The Dailys to help you do that - small daily steps add up to big dreamer goals!
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