Fast forward two decades and I have quite a different perspective. I can see clearly now how much conditioning has influenced my decisions. I'm now determined to make decisions from a place of knowing versus as place of having been told.
It's the natural progression of life - being, belonging and becoming.
All of us experience the first two stages - being and belonging. As children we learn from our families and educators how to "be" in this world. From rules on how to behave in society to specifically what your role in society plays. Then as we get older, we develop bonds with like-minded people. Where we learn how to belong. The third stage is a little more elusive. It's a choice we make. Continue to go with the status quo or question what is true for you.
This is when life gets fun! But can feel a bit scary too. When you do something for the first time, you can get that uneasy feeling in your stomach. It feels like you are doing something wrong but in fact it is completely normal. You are developing neural pathways. Your brain is like a map and the neural pathways are like roads you build. As you learn new ways of living and being, you develop new roads. Until those roads are built, you will feel uncomfortable.
This is the stage where most of us jump ship. Most likely because we are going against what was taught to us, but the exhilaration of discovering your truth far out weighs the momentary discord. I promise!
A CHANGE in direction can be as simple as:
A-dmitting the area in your life that you are dissatisfied with.
C-learly writing out the solution you wish to accomplish.
H-earing your intuitive direction through meditation or journaling.
A-nalizing how to remove past conditioning that is blocking your growth.
N-eural pathways can now be built by taking your goal and breaking it into steps.
G-et help from people that have successfully accomplished your goal.
E-xecute your new way of living by affirming your success and taking daily action.
The hardest part of change is the first step! Don't self-sabotage by buying into the doubts your mind will feed you. It's just a defense mechanism we all have intended to keep us safe. But remember, growth is never found in our comfort zone. Happy Coaching Brave Ones!
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