Kid's Life Skills Coach is my "title". What in the world does that mean? Aren't coaches just for sports? Why in the world would my family need one? And what life skills can you possibly teach my child that I'm already not doing?
These are great questions that I get all the time and what this post is dedicated to - educating you as a parent so that you can educate your kiddo! That's my number one job qualification as a parent and as a coach. I'm a regular mom's mom who happens to dedicate my life to not only building up my child, but yours as well.
My name is Michelle Cole. I am the owner and founder of Be Brave, Be You, a certified coach specializing in life skills for children, a best-selling author and most importantly a proud mom!
I Learned about EQ the Hard Way
I used to be that kid with low self-esteem. Somewhere along the way, I began to believe that I wasn’t good enough and that something was wrong with me. I had a pattern of bullying that followed me throughout my adolescence well into college. It left me feeling like I didn’t belong and I felt isolated and alone. I started to seek approval from others.
As I grew, so did my lack of self-confidence. I chose relationships with people that didn’t hold my best interest at heart – people that wanted to control or use me. These experiences further fueled my story that I was unlovable, which lead to years of pain, shame and unworthiness.
Fate has a habit of leading us in ways we don’t often expect. That is exactly what happened to me when I embarked on a healing journey to find out what was wrong with me. I started reading self-help books. I learned that I had to take responsibility and ownership for my part in these challenges. I learned that because I held negative beliefs about myself, life simply mirrored those beliefs in my experiences and relationships. It became apparent to me that my outside life was never going to change unless I changed my inside one.
As I shifted my internal dialogue, how I felt on the inside, my outside world followed suit. Ironically what I discovered was that nothing was wrong with me at all. That I actually held the power all along to change how I felt about myself - once I had the right tools for personal transformation. I am happy to share with you that I now feel like a different person. I feel confident, purposeful, happy and content.
Your Kiddo Doesn’t have to Struggle
Now my passion is to teach kids early about their personal power when they are developing their core beliefs and self-worth. To teach them about resilience. To let them know how perfectly made they are. And that their potential is through the roof. That they are each uniquely made and don’t need to compare themselves to one another.
I teach children life skills so that they develop unwavering self-confidence. My work is based in EQ or the measurement of emotional intelligence. We have been taught as a society to prepare our children for independence by solely developing their IQ. Studies have found that EQ is as important if not more so than IQ.
Where the traditional role of parents is to teach morale and character, a coach teaches mindset developmental skills. I teach your child the brain science behind the power of their minds by targeting thought patterns.
These skills are important for the development of successful relationships. When your child can recognize, evaluate and regulate their emotions, they are in charge of their behavior which builds self-confidence. These are skills to be utilized throughout life - from classroom discipline to their career success.
How to Increase Emotional Intelligence
Just as important as it is to learn these skills is to know when to use them. You see our thoughts trigger how we feel, and how we feel influences how we act. So, if feelings are the trigger, we use that as an indicator to evaluate our thoughts. So instead of just reacting to a person or situation, we "react" if you will to our feelings. Meaning we can decide if a thought pattern needs to change to have a better feeling to then have a better reaction. This is how we learn to take control of our behavior.
The mind is just one aspect of EQ Development. We have to couple this with self-care of our body and learning how to follow our intuition as well. To learn self-care is to learn the importance of taking care of our bodies – getting enough sleep, eating nutritiously, exercising and making healthy choices. Last, to follow our intuition is to connect with ourselves on such an intimate level that we learn to follow our own compass and not others. We each have a journey in our life to fulfill and it is as unique as our fingerprints. The sooner our children learn who they are, the sooner their legacy can be left in this world and what a beautiful gift that is!
Our end goal is the balancing of the Mind/Body/Spirit so we equip our children with skills to coach themselves through the ups and downs of life. Life isn’t without challenges but if we give them the right coping skills our children can create anything they want in their life and have a beautiful and bright future full of possibilities!
For more information, check out my blog Setting Goals:
As Fredrick Douglas said “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”
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